“I Hate It, But I Love It”: A Practice Mindset That Works

by Ari 2 Aug 2025 2 minute read

A Practice Mindset That Works!

I hate it, but I love it.

There’s a phrase my favorite workout coach likes to say during those extra-brutal sets:
“I hate it… But I love it.”

At first, I thought it was a strange thing to say. But the weird thing is: it works!! I find myself catching a second wind, pushing me through to the end. 

And it got me thinking: what if we applied that same mindset to practicing bass? After all, some days and some routines just feel harder than others. 

Try this:

Make two quick lists:

🛑 The “Hate” List (a few examples from mine):

  • Not seeing progress as fast as I want

  • Logging tempos, areas, and keys, tracking bar numbers (it’s tedious)

  • Resisting mindless noodling, “I just wanna play” 

  • Some days getting started

💚 The “Love” List:

  • The feeling of the strings under my fingers

  • Getting into a groove and losing track of time

  • That moment when the warmup kicks in

  • When something clicks that didn’t yesterday

  • The satisfying feeling after a good session

  • Simply the fact that I practiced


Now pair one from each list:

“I hate tracking bar numbers… but I love the moment when something finally clicks.”
“It’s hard to start sometimes… but I always love the fact that I practiced.”

Suddenly the resistance softens. It’s just one part of the bigger picture.
It reminds you why you’re doing this in the first place.

Make sure to say them in that order: 
👎 but 💙


So next time practice feels like a chore?

Tell yourself:
I hate it… but I love it.
And get to it!

It’s a shift in mindset – but it’s also a shift in identity. High five to practicing you!

Let me know what you’d put on your lists – hit reply or leave a comment.

 

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As a bassist, I have toured/played/recorded with a variety of rock, Jazz, and funk bands, I have worked with some incredible producers (Keith Olsen) and musicians (Paul Hanson, Muriel Anderson) and I toured Brazil with Stu Hamm as a duo.

 

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When I started playing bass, I excelled very quickly because I had an amazing teacher who taught me using a powerful method. This method transformed my playing so quickly that I passed a bunch of high-level university auditions and even tested out of entire classes at university even though I had been playing for only a very short time.

 

That’s what, many years later turned into one of my books, co-written with Wolf Wein, called “The Pattern System for the Bass Player”. I created entire systems of learning based on some of these ideas and wrote books and created courses together with Wolf. Our bass books have sold over 30,000 copies and garnered rave reviews.

 

I started teaching online in 2009 and have embraced technology as a powerful learning tool since then, never losing sight of the importance of providing feedback and personalized guidance to learners.

 

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